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When I was a relatively new wife, I enrolled in an excellent class at our church. It was called Helpmeet. The title was taken from Genesis 2:18–

And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

The course taught women that we were made to be our husband’s helper. It challenged me to look at my preconceived ideas about the roles of husbands and wives.

I will never forget an illustration used in that class. We were instructed to go home and try wearing our husband’s shoes around the house. Later we talked about how it felt.

His shoes are too big.

They were uncomfortable.

It made it harder to do my work.

His shoes weren’t designed for us. They’re his shoes and they fit his feet. Often we try to put on roles that are not ours to wear.

In financial matters at home, are you trying to wear your husband’s shoes? Are you in charge instead of him? Do you try to limit his spending? Pay all the bills?

Supporting the family is one of the jobs God gave to the husband. Yes, the wife should participate in the decision making. She might even be the one who physically pays the bills. But we as wives must be very careful not to put ourselves in authority over our husbands in this, or any area.

This post is a part of The Christian Home, posted weekly at The Legacy of Home.




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  2 Responses to “Whose Shoes are you Trying to Fill?”

  1. I agree! And personally I wouldn’t want to have my husband job. He works hard and long hours and I appreciate his role in the family. I have my roll as well and its just as difficult but he doesn’t want my job either. He actually did my job one day while I had to go to a COOP planning session for half the day and when I got back home he gave me a big hug and said you do a wonderful job. I just make sure I tell him when he gets home how much I apreciate what he does for us also. It gives me much joy as a wife to take even the smallest burden off my husband. Rather it be the laundry or fixing his lunch and making coffee.

  2. A great post!
    Truly good to be reminded of being husband’s helper.
    Sweet blessings to you,

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